Many parents have asked me about their child playing with others at recess. Today I noticed that at one point or another, every child played with another student or group of students while we were outside. Some still played alone at times, but at least everyone intereacted with others during the recess time. I know this can be a concern for you, but it is still fairly typical for children to play alone at this age. As long as they are intereacting with others at times, there is no need to worry. We have done several lessons on how to make friends and how to ask others to play in class this year.
What to do if your child would rather play alone Written by Hilary Benson
Remember the classic children's story of Ferdinand the Bull? He was happy sitting under his favorite cork tree smelling the flowers, rather than butting heads with the other young bulls. His mother worried about Ferdinand being lonesome.
Here are some tips for parents who may have concerns about their own child's behavior:
Know your child. It can be tricky to figure out if a child is truly satisfied with his or her lack of friendships. Parents can usually tell when their child is happy. But kids who are unhappy may be masking disappointment, perhaps acting out their feelings in an aggressive manner. Others may internalize symptoms, appearing sad or withdrawn.
Talk with the child's teacher. A parent may learn a great deal by asking the teachers questions such as whether the child works with others on group projects or if he or she eats lunch alone. A parent can also talk with the recess supervisor about what happens on the playground, and whether a child stays on the sidelines of play, unsure of how to join the group.
Carol Johnson, a school counselor inthe Seattle Public School District, emphasizes the difference between kids who are shy but happy and kids who feel isolated because they are do not know how to make friends. "It is not necessarily that there is something wrong with that child, but they will in fact need help and suggestions for breaking into a peer group," Johnson says.
Facilitate friendships. Parents can act as "social coaches," says Dr. Carol Cole, a child psychologist in Seattle. Ask a child if there is someone he or she would like to have over to play. If a mom or dad can make the play dates happen, or if they hit on an activity the child truly enjoys, the young person may begin to forge friendships on their own. If that tactic fails, a parent can explore "friendship groups" or "social skills groups." Some schools and private-practice counselors facilitate these groups for the sole purpose of identifying words and actions that will plant the seed for young friendships.
Respect the child. Ingrid Olsen-Young, an expert in early childhood development in south Seattle, encourages well-meaning parents to choose words carefully. Use phrases like, "Hey, I noticed something," or "Let me help you be successful." By showing respect, parents should feel more comfortable nudging their children beyond their comfort zone.
When to seek professional help. When does isolation raise a red flag for long-term issues? True personality disorders are not typically diagnosed until adulthood. Still, professional counseling should be considered if the anti-social behavior is causing the child significant distress, perhaps keeping him or her from functioning in everyday activities. Also, parents should pay attention to how the child's social behavior changes over time. Cole says that most children develop the tools they need for making friends as they get older. She is most concerned about the children who go the other direction, showing more social anxiety as they age.
The vast majority of children who define "quality time" as time alone are perfectly happy, healthy and normal. If the child is able to nurture at least one friendship, exhibiting what experts call "social reciprocity," then parents can relax, and can cherish that child who enjoys the pleasure of his or her own company. ™
http://www.parentmap.com/content/view/362
when it is shaken up and left alone for the weekend. We also worked with clay and are doing the same experiment with it this weekend. I wonder how they will change by Monday? I have added many new pictures to the website, and I hope you will be able to look at them.
Each day in math workshop, students are able to to play games that reinforce skills and lessons we have been learning about in class. We call these choices "menu math". Some of the games students are able to choose from currently are double dominoes, addition war, the sock game, and Mathfacts on the computer. It is important that they be able to apply and transfer their knowledge to other content areas. Even though we do a timed test, daily math review, and have a new lesson each day, each one is only a part of what we do in math workshop. The more ways we can practice what we are learning, the better chance we have to remember and internalize it.
One of the best parts of school for m
any students is recess. Here are some photos I took today of the children playing. Remember to dress your child based on the changing weather. Especially at this time of year, some days he or she may need a jacket, and other days shorts is just fine.
We have been learning about how items have different properties that can be sorted. Students have sorted rocks based on color, shape, size, and the way they feel. In centers this week the children are working on sorting lids into different categories, and are writing about their observations in their science journal.
We have continued our study of rocks this week and experimented with what happened when some of our rocks were placed in water. Students were excited to visit the science lab to do our experiments. We will be going there over the next few weeks to work with our FOSS kit. Students have also been bringing in their rocks from home to add to our rock museum. We have collected several different types already.
Today we learned about doubles in math, such as 2+2, 4+4, or 9+9. Learning doubles helps students remember patterns in numbers and they can also use them to learn other math facts. We painted and made doubles on our paper by folding the sheet in half.
